Hey, girls! I wrote this years ago.... I just found it in an old purse of mine. Along with quite a few other papers like it. I never shared them with anyone, but now, I'm so happy to encourage you with this one. I might post the others later, but I'm at the library and I'm short on time. Here it is:
Every girls got a guy,
While I sit here and wait.
Their happy faces fly by.
as I watch, I meditate.
I'm not gonna melt
I'll stand here till I die.
But then they pop the question,
"Why?"
"The guys are all the same.
Some are cuter than the others.
Theres millions of them out there,
and they all can't be like brothers."
"Your missing all the fun."
"What keeps you wher you are?"
They laugh and say, "sure, girl.
Keep wishing on that star."
"It's not gonna happen, Girl.
Waiting just aint right."
On and on, they carry
...Should I give up the fight?
Theres a reason why I do this.
Theres a thought and a plan.
I watchd all you other fish...
I'll stay in the frying pan.
It hurts, I'm gonna tell you.
It hurts and theres no lie.
But I watched you when you jumped out,
and how it made you cry.
The fire looked like fun,
but in the end it burned.
You thought you were so smart,
I hope you've a lesson learned.
I'm watching, and I'm waiting.
I'm staying right here;
And when my husband finds me,
I'll shed a HAPPY tear.
He'll be worth the wait.
I can tell you that right now.
I watch, I meditate.
I've already taken the vow.
I'll know him when he finds me,
Though he might not know me yet.
I'll know him for on all the points
on my list he'll have met.
My list is full and detailed,
But God knows everything.
I trust Him with my future,
with or without a ring.
I'm open to His guidance.
He will His plan fulfill.
If He wants me married,
He will lead me there, and still,
right now I watch and wait.
I may have some time to kill.

Girls! This poem was such an encouragement to me as I read it so many years after I wrote it. As many of you know, I'm now engaged to a wonderfully Godly man. What would I have left to offer him if I had given in to the fear of getting left behind? Basically nothing.

Girls, you've GOT to make a commitment to the Lord that whether or not He wants you to get married, you will stay pure. Take it on as your identity, and don't let anyone steal it from you! I'm not just talking about your bodies, either. The real treasure lies in your heart.

Think of how amazing it would feel if you were to marry a guy who could look at you and say, "You are the only one I've ever given my heart to." Won't you do the same for your husband?

Here's how: Write out a detailed list of exactly what you want. Don't be silly and put things like "Blue eyes" or "must be taller than me" unless its really a big deal to you. Don't go at this thinking, "What would I like?" Go at it thinking, "What are the qualities he MUST have for me to follow him?" Identify why he MUST have them, and write those qualities down.

Remember, this is not a game. A heart is not a toy. You may think it's fun to have your hart tossed around. It's pretty, it's sparkly, and there is a certain mystery about it that holds your attention. But if your dropped, it will shatter. No joke. I know you girls are committed to physical purity, but what about emotional purity?

Only you can look into your heart and determine whether or not your imagination has run wild. Don't get your heart set on a boy who does not have strong enough hands, sure enough footing, and the proper coordination to hold your heart. Don't give it to a guy who doesn't deserve you!

Trust me, they can flatter, they can tease and flirt, but there is one test I have found that gets them every time.

After you write down your list, give it to your dad. Talk to him about what you mean on each point. Commit yourself to staying under his authority in regards to boys. Let him know he is your God-given filter. Give him the honor of weeding out the phonies for you.

Next time a guy asks for your number, or out on a date, why don't you try giving him your dad's number and see what they do THEN. You know, I've had countless guys flirting with me in many different manors, but only two of them ever called my dad. It's a scary thing to call and get a girl's father's permission to date his daughter. They won't do it unless they're serious.

Don't let this scare you! I know it's scary! Trust me! Time after time of realizing no one was stepping up made me wonder if this was really such a good idea after all. But then I had to search out what my motives were.

What was the point of dating/courting/seeing-someone? To find a partner for life. I looked at my list again... Did I want to be stuck with a guy who didn't have these things? No way! Did I want to serve the Lord more than I wanted to be married? Absolutely. I was His hand maiden, and He had every right to do with me whatever He wanted. Even if that meant a life of singleness.

I wanted to tell you, standing on the other side now, I look back, and I must say that I wouldn't change a single thing I did.

My whole heart is still in tact, and I'm ready to give it to my future husband. He was well worth the wait, just like my parents said he would be!

So don't give up, girls! If your life is fully dedicated to serving the Lord, only the best will follow you. The pain is only for a season. He Who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it! He loves you! He cares more about your happiness than you do! He know exactly how to get it. So don't give up on Him. He will never give up on you!